alison - Last Saturday at 8:08 PM
Was I over the line there
I was trying to be as polite as possible
Fictional Siveper - Last Saturday at 8:08 PM
A little, tbh
alison - Last Saturday at 8:09 PM
I literally do not know how to be more polite than I was
Fictional Siveper - Last Saturday at 8:10 PM
The sentiment about the ping was understandable. However, I think the other comments pushed a button because there has been a real problem with how people are responding, and we really want to help people improve their art through these critiques.
alison - Last Saturday at 8:11 PM
My issue right now is being personally attacked when all I was trying to do was say that one thing one person did was unkind
And being accused of being passive aggressive when I am being as direct as I know how
Fictional Siveper - Last Saturday at 8:14 PM
The passive aggressiveness referred to the comment:
 
"I do think it is unkind. We can disagree then, that's fine by me.
You don't have to justify yourselves to me, you guys are the ones in charge."
 
The second line, in particular, was perceived in the same way as you saying:
 
"But don't pay attention to me. You guys do whatever you want, because you have all the power."
 
Whether that's the intended tone or not, it was perceived as an aggressive statement.
alison - Last Saturday at 8:18 PM
It's not meant to be aggressive it's trying to be the opposite to avoid drawing ire. I'm an ant compared to you guys. I'm a user, not a mod, so even when I disagree with you guys it doesn't matter.
 
I'm always confused by you guys.
Fictional Siveper - Last Saturday at 8:20 PM
The thing about this chat is that chat members' opinions have the same weight in decisions as staff members' opinions. Someone's status within the chat does not effect the weight of their opinion.
alison - Last Saturday at 8:25 PM
That has been the opposite of what I have seen in this chat and the opposite of how I have felt treated. And I'm okay with that because it's not my show or not my server.
 
 I just get confused because normally the feeling is that what users say doesn't matter until they're anonymous or, when I do it, publicly critical.
 
That's not really what I came to talk to you about though since it's not relevant except to my confusion--I mostly just want to know if you think that Sue' s reaction to me was reasonable and proportionate
Fictional Siveper - Last Saturday at 8:30 PM
In context, I do believe it was reasonable. Although the reaction may have been disproportionate in the context of the argument, given the amount of time and effort Mattie put into the event and that the event did not apply to you, I believe it was proportionate overall.
alison - Last Saturday at 8:30 PM
I mean the insults to me
Just that part
Fictional Siveper - Last Saturday at 8:31 PM
I'm unsure I read any insults. Can you paste the specific comments you're referring to?
alison - Last Saturday at 8:34 PM
If you didn't see them as insults then that's my answer. I'm sorry for wasting your time, I don't mean to be a pain in your ass like this.
Fictional Siveper - Last Saturday at 8:36 PM
It's fine, really. If you're feeling uncomfortable, I'd rather there be an open dialogue than hidden resentment.
alison - Last Saturday at 8:37 PM
I know I'm a shit sometimes but I promise I'm always trying to do the right thing.
Fictional Siveper - Last Saturday at 8:39 PM
If you ever feel uncertain about anything chat-related in the future, feel free to message me again. I'm here to help whenever needed.